Great Expectations

Wonderful wedding wisdom (try saying that three times fast!) from a commenter, Abby-Wan Kenobi, on a recent post at A Practical Wedding:

If I thought our wedding day was going to be the happiest day of my life, I wouldn't be getting married. I see a future with my fiance because I know we'll have lots of happy days. Quiet Sunday afternoon days, big accomplishment days, days with babies, days with crying, days with laughing, days with Chinese take-out, days when we acheive [sic] one dream and immediately find a new one. And those days will all be special and happy and memorable because we spend them together, not because I spent $8000 on my outfit.

In a way, all these expectations we have for our wedding days to be "the happiest day of our lives" seem to short circuit a lot of why we're in this marriage thing in the first place. God willing, our wedding day will be a wonderful day, full of food, fun, and loved ones. But if it's going to be the pinnacle of our lives together, then what's the point of what comes after?